Average time spent dating before getting engaged
Not only that, but we're also spending longer in our relationships before getting married.
Oh, and you can know what those faults are and enter into a marriage with open eyes about who you're really marrying. Here are some things that I think should happen before you decide to get engaged, regardless of how long it's been:—You should say "I love you" to one another, and mean it.—You should meet close friends and family members.—You should experience some sort of conflict to see how you both react to stress.—You should disagree about something.—You should know your partner's core as a person.—You should discuss your ideas about money, gender roles, and where you want to live.—You should feel in your gut that you can trust this person.—You should both come first to one another.—You should be able to speak openly and feel respected at all times.—You should feel comfortable about your sexual compatibility and both feel satisfied.
As long as you believe that you know the other person well, and that you have been honest and open with them allowing them to know what you are really like then you should be ready for marriage.
As you are making a decision on a relationship that should last a lifetime it is better to be safe than sorry and make sure that you have properly considered the consequences of it not working out.
Here's the thing—you can know a person for years before you get engaged, be happily married for years after that, and then something bad can happen.
It happened to many couples I know—couples who played by all the rules and waited "appropriate" amounts of time before committing. Down the road, someone still might cheat, or fall out of love, or want totally different things.